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Posted On July - 21 - 2011 0 Comment

parents offer to their child are essential to good emotional development of the little ones. It is good to mention also the existence of explanations we give to children and how to give these explanations.

Perhaps many of us have seen at least one child with behavior problems, in our own family or in other families and for sure you have asked yourselves what are the reasons why children end up being so disobedient, angry, violent and rude. Parents blame the children’s temperament, and the truth is that parents cause this behavior in 95%. A very important role in shaping children’s moral and behavior is held by using reward and punishment.

The reward has the role to offer pleasure to the child after performing an accepted behavior and desired by parents. Offering pleasure, the behavior is encouraged and there is a good chance that it will be repeated. The reward is the ‘positive motivation’ and is very effective in educating the child. Punishment is an equally important tool in the education process. This produces to the child a negative state which will result in the avoidance of what he did wrong.

Punishment is the ‘negative motivation’ and statistically is less effective than reward, meaning fear from punishment. For example if the child takes a bad mark, punishment is less effective than the promise of a reward for getting a good grade. Moreover, very important for parents is that physical or aggressive punishment is less effective than other punishments, such as deprivation of TV, games and toys, sweets, because these non-aggressive punishments do not cause frustration and conflicts in the emotional balance of the child.

An important suggestion for parents is to shape the punishment after the gravity of the incident made by the child. It is important that the punishment be given mostly when the child is wrong to create a reflex in the child’s mind, while is not so important how big is the punishment. If parents lose their temper it is preferable to delay announcing the sentence until they calm down, so the punishment will not be exceedingly high. At the same time, it is very important that the punishment be clear and limited in time. Also, try to go all the way with the punishment, even if you exaggerated because if you stop it the child will become confused.

In the end, if the child has done something bad, but it was never said to him clearly that thing is bad, the child should not be punished, but is needed to be told that thing is bad and why. It is important also to be made known to him that if he does that thing he will receive a punishment. As for the reward, try to show you enjoy when the child does something good, try to reward him with something tangible, with a toy or something he wants, and remind him that he will be rewarded the next time he will do something good.

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